Wednesday, 30 January 2008

Forced absence

It seems as though my little fling with blogging has to come to a grinding halt. As much as I would love to continue blogging (daily if I had my way), time-wise it is just not possible. Work is just really hectic at the moment, and I don't find a moment of peace to put my profound, silly or just boring thoughts on cyber paper. I thought about writing some things at home and then posting them from work, but now my home time is just as much restricted due to this new study endeavour of mine. And then in April we'll be relocating. So who knows whether our uncertain future includes Internet access. I will really try to post as often as I can, but as of now, I am taking forced leave from blogging...

:(

Tuesday, 15 January 2008

Coversations in my head

I often have conversations in my head with people that are in my life. Ten to one these conversations never happen. And if they do, I usually don't say what I said in my head. In my head I am eloquent and expressive; I can talk for hours about one topic - telling all details. In my head. When I'm sitting in front of the person I suddenly don't seem to have that much to say. Suddenly my story doesn't seem as significant as it did when I was saying it in my head... I usually have these conversations when I'm running. Occasionally I will have an involuntary conversation while I'm sitting in the car, or trying to understand VAT. I mostly have conversations with friends. Sometimes with colleagues, my parents... Sometimes with some unknown stranger. A lot of the time it's about the most random of things. How inconsistent my running has been lately, the gory details of my venture into bookkeeping studies... All the stuff that, perhaps, I can't seem to share with anyone. Perhaps I sound a little ungrateful... It goes without saying, of course, that my husband is always there to listen to my ramblings. ALWAYS. And goodness knows I ramble to him. And I have friends. Many good ones. But I miss having that one friend. You know. That once in a lifetime kind of friend... Perhaps it is too much to ask. Like a luxury. Not something that you really NEED. Just something that's nice to have.

Wednesday, 09 January 2008

Fear

It's become increasingly clear to me that most problems stem from or involve fear. I wouldn't really term myself a fearful person, but at closer inspection it becomes frightfully (excuse the pun) obvious that I am very afraid. Of a lot of things. I'm afraid to do something wrong at work. I'm afraid that I won't find a job when we move. I'm afraid of losing my husband. I'm afraid of interactions with strangers. I'm afraid of not being able to fall pregnant. I'm afraid of falling pregnant. I'm afraid of not making any more good friends in my life. Afraid afraid afraid...

People in this country are afraid as a collective. Afraid of crime. Afraid that Jacob Zuma might be the next president. Afraid they won't get a job because of their skin colour. Afraid afraid afraid...

Fear is not from God, however.

I hold onto that hope.

Tuesday, 08 January 2008

I wish I wish...

I wish I had more time to spend on thinking about interesting posts to write. At night when I don't fall asleep immediately I think about how on earth we are going to move to PE in April. Will we find someone with a Bakkie? Or a trailer? Or will we have a moving van? But who will pay? I dream about cash journals and the double entry rule. Just before I nod off I'm figuring out why on earth there is a purchases column in the cash payments journal. And I keep going over what c/d and b/d could possibly stand for. I keep forgetting to book my reflexology treatment that my husband gave me for my birthday. Time in this town is running out... I spend my days receiving stock and answering the phone and doing quotes. I process orders and take payments.

A year ago we were getting ready for our wedding...

Wednesday, 02 January 2008

New beginnings

People love the idea of new beginnings. Of having a clean slate. Starting afresh. Forgetting the bad that happened in the past. The new year is a perfect time for this. Fresh starts and new years resolutions. I'm not really into that though. New years resolutions never last anyway. If you wanna make a change, why wait for a new year?

My husband says that, despite the wedding, 2007 is a year he'd rather forget. Maybe I wouldn't be saying this if my life was a little more challenging than it is*, but even a terrible year has some good times. 2007 was tough, but at the same time it was our first year of marriage, and we experienced many times where we were really blessed in terms of finances, friends and fun. Yeah, yeah. I'm the glass full kinda person.

It often frustrates me when others don't seem to share this attitude of mine. I'm not talking about serious suffering like death and emotional trauma. I'm talking about life. With all its ups and downs. Negative people really get me down. I just can't stand it when someone complains about everything. Money, prices, crime, sport blah blah. After a few days I find myself doing the same! Complaining about people in the traffic or goodness knows what. That's just not like me. I end up angry at myself for succumbing to the negativity. It sometimes is just such a force that I can't seem to fight against.

Funny, my family was never one to complain at all really. Most of the time my parents would try to see the positive things in the situation. I seriously appreciate that now, yet can't seem to deal with negative people very well. Plus, when the person being negative has been through a great deal of suffering can you really tell them where to climb off? I mean, they're obviously negative for a good reason! It makes me feel even worse actually - like I'm expecting them to just get over it and be positive.

The war in my mind.

So this year is one of exciting new things. Firstly I started studying again. Secondly our good friends are going to have a baby girl! And we will be moving away from this sleepy hollow TOWN (it just can't even be called a city). Plus my husband will officially start working.

*I mean, who doesn't have issues, but I'm much better off than some other people in the world.

PS. I thought a new background would be nice for a new year...